Reframing Screen Time

Social media platforms are designed to be addictive. Algorithms often reward comparison, outrage, and overstimulation. Too much unmoderated screen time can contribute to anxiety, sleep disruption, and reduced attention spans, especially for middle schoolers navigating big social and emotional changes. We shouldn't ignore those risks.

But we also shouldn't stop the conversation there.

Rather than focusing only on what to avoid, we can reframe the way we approach screen time. Instead of just counting minutes, we can start asking: What kind of screen time are they having? And how can we guide kids toward experiences that support their growth, creativity, and wellbeing?

For middle schoolers especially, screens aren’t just entertainment. They can be tools for exploration, connection, and identity-building. With a little intention, we can make space for healthier, more meaningful digital experiences.

Here’s how:

1. Focus on Creation Over Consumption

Encourage kids to make something on their devices. This could be coding a game, designing a digital poster, making a video, or composing music. Tools like Scratch, Canva, and Tinkercad turn screens into studios for self-expression.

2. Use Games That Build Thinking Skills

Not all games are mindless. Here’s a list of some ‘thinky’ video games we love. Our very own, Star Stuff, is on this list! Check out the free edu version here.

3. Make Screen Time Collaborative

Turn solo screen time into a shared experience. Co-play a game, co-watch a science video, or co-design a digital project. Middle schoolers still crave connection, even if they act like they don’t. Sharing screen time gives you a window into their interests and creates chances to bond.

4. Set Purpose-Driven Time Blocks

Instead of policing minutes, set intentions. "Let’s spend 30 minutes working on that animation project," or "See if you can solve the next two puzzles in Star Stuff." This shifts the focus from restriction to goal-setting.

5. Talk About It

Ask kids what they love about their favorite games or creators. What do they notice? What skills are they using? When we engage their digital lives with curiosity instead of criticism, we build trust and help them develop a healthy relationship with tech.

Let’s be clear: some screen time is unhealthy. And kids need boundaries and guidance. But when we shift the conversation to include quality, creativity, and intention, we open the door to more empowering possibilities.

Screen time doesn’t have to be the enemy. With thoughtful choices and open conversations, it can be a powerful ally in helping kids grow into curious, creative, and capable problem solvers.